There’s a distinct line between BDSM activities and abuse, it being consent. I am a part of many communities online and places of discussion about the lifestyles and practices and there are many occasions that sound like it’s a situation of abuse of rights, mental abuse, and physical abuse. There are many types of people … More Read Between the Lines
I’ve tried many toys and accessories over the years. I’ve both given and received punishment from these. I do have my submissive try the tools on me so I know what they feel like. Here is a compilation of my top five so far! Chain Flogger. This is a flogger like others, where the strips … More My Top Five Toys
A while ago I worked at a UPS Store where we had mailboxes for clients. I’m willing to bet there was some illegal activity going on in there, but one client that marked me was a “Financial Dominatrix” who had an online presence and people sent her money and gifts regularly. Of course, everyone has … More Insta-Dom
One of my very first jobs in high school was at a hardware store. In the thousands of people I checked out at the register I never once wondered why they were buying whatever it is they were buying. It didn’t occur to me that maybe it wasn’t for a home project. Back then I … More What color are your glasses?
The universe of BDSM is about much more than pain and sex. Shocking, right? I feel like pop culture has brought to light the idea of pain and black lace as essential elements of our bubble, which isn’t always the case. In my practice the senses are crucial to the environment, and thus the experience. … More We’re not all mad here!
I have been asked about the 50 Shades series and how I feel about its depiction of the world of BDSM. Here’s what I think. Yes, I am a fan of the books and the movies alike. The storyline describes Christian Grey as a Sadist with Dominant tendencies stemming from seduction and abuse early on. … More 50 Shades of Offended
I love the fact that my mother in law is so willing to look after the house when we’re away. She cleans and organizes, and puts things together for us, and we appreciate it. What I don’t like is the fact that all of this comes with the fact that she finds these things that … More Wandering Eyes of…the in-laws
To provide some more background, my submissive is very much into Femdom (Female Domination). This works well with me because I am a Female and a Dominant. He loves servitude, female led relationships, and power over him day-to-day. This includes pussy worship, providing me with anything I may ask for (massage, chores, errands, etc.). I … More Domestic Servitude
Many areas of the BDSM lifestyle can tie into each other. For example a Dominant can also be a Masochist. The only lines are the ones you place upon your relationship. Many practitioners disagree with this as a fundamental deviance of the traditional BDSM norms. I see BDSM as a deviance of the norm itself, … More Lifestyle Crossovers
Let me introduce you to my submissive. I call him Little Bitch, he earned that title. Our relationship began on the grounds of him longing to lick the lips between my hips, so I made him. Somewhere along the line we made it formal and have been married for some time now. One of the … More My Submissive